While on the whole, relationships are universally recognized as a good thing, and strived for, there are certain drawbacks that must be equally recognized. The fact is that men literally live two different lives; there’s the single man, and then there is the committed man. Men are usually forced to go through both stages several times before finally settling into one or the other, but the two lifestyles are distinct. These 15 freedoms make up the basic framework of those things we lose when transitioning between the single life, and finally committing to that long sought-after relationship.
Games and Toys
This one is especially painful, so much so that many men start weaning themselves off random gadgetry while still single in an attempt to minimize future losses. You like motorcycles? They’re too dangerous. You want six different gaming consoles? You’ll be lucky if she lets you keep just one. Toys are for boys, men spend their money on more sensible things, like Volvo’s and kitchen appliances.
Hanging Out With the Guys
It can be heard echoing around the halls of many a tap-room: “Another good man gone.” When men are with women, they’re completely with them. There’s just no way out of it, in order to really cement a committed relationship, a man must spend time with his woman, and that time is generally the same time his friends want to hang out. When he does finally have time to hang out, his friends are either at work or sleeping for once. This is a sad fact of life. Get used to being the third wheel while your girl chats it up with her bff from work. Oh, and all the cosmo’s are on you too, so bring your wallet.
Your Work Focus
One of the nice things about being single that gets noticed is success at work. If you’ve got no significant other to preoccupy yourself with, then you are able to completely pour yourself into your work, entirely without any negative consequences. Your bank account will swell and your boss will love you; your family and friends all see what a success you are, you’re the go-to guy at the company. Enter your love interest. Oh how quickly things change…
Keeping Your Own Schedule
You haven’t had to follow somebody else’s schedule since you were in grade school, but that changes when you get yourself a girlfriend. It’s just not kosher to run around until three in the morning when she’s at home waiting for you, and skipping dinner won’t work either. Get used to a bit more structured schedule than what you’re used to.
No Drama, No Arguments
The only arguments you might have single are probably with your best friend over which movie Monica Bellucci hottest in, or what beer tastes better. That’s not how life in a relationship is. There are fights all the time, and they’re usually over nothing.
Having Money
This is a no-brainer. We may live in a modern society, but let’s face it, some things just don’t change. Men have more money when they’re single, it’s a fact, that’s all there is too it. Get a girlfriend, spend more money, a lot more. It’s up to you to decide how much is too much, but if you’re like most of us, that line gets crossed pretty regularly, and with a smile on your face.
Getting Lucky
Even if you do manage to get some time out on the town with the guys every now and then, it just won’t be like it used to be. There will be text messages or phone calls, and you’ll have to return them. You won’t be anxious about the possibilities, because you already know how the night will end. You may not even be out that long, since keeping it responsible means keeping it down to just a couple of beers. Things just aren’t like they used to be anymore.
Random Travel on a Whim
Feel like taking a few well-earned sick days this week and grabbing the cheapest discount round-trip flight out of here? That kind of spontaneity gets girls to notice you, but it doesn’t fly anymore when one of them becomes a permanent fixture in your life. The random road-trips, the hosteling in Europe, the weekends on your buddy’s couch in Denver, it all comes to an end when you share a bed.
Eating Whatever You Want
Cold pizza for breakfast, three energy drinks by lunch, and a double cheese before you hit the bar may be an average Wednesday now, but that’s going to change. You’ll be lucky to keep coffee in your morning agenda, as you’ll be submitted to every form of tofu-laden, green tea enhanced torture that your new squeeze can come up with. The only burgers you may be seeing will be tofurkey. You could keep the good stuff if you rope a chick who appreciates the food men love, but she’s probably not going to fit in the size zero panties you want on your floor.
Decorating Your Own Place
It’s become a goal of every woman to someday conquer and renovate a man cave, a phrase they’ve proliferated in their merciless quest to further Ikea’s dominance across the globe. The countless man-hours you’ve spent collecting the perfect eclectic mix of nonsense materials to give your place that touch of you will be stripped of all character and whitewashed into art deco oblivion the moment her toothbrush hits your sink.
Sleeping Whenever, and Wherever You Want
You won’t have the luxury of passing out on any flat surface within sight anymore once a woman enters your life. You will be all but required to sleep with her, where she sleeps, when she sleeps, for as long as she sleeps. No more sleeping in, unless she wants to, and no more night-owling either. Nocturnal gamers rue the day they finally acquire a girlfriend, as those kinds of hours aren’t for respectable couples.
Interest in Physical Fitness
You probably keep yourself in pretty good shape while single and on the prowl, since you kind of need to. Since being physically attractive is probably about 90% responsible for success in the dating game, it’s only natural that you attempt to keep yourself in check. Unfortunately, the first thing to go when you’ve got a girl is your physique. It’s tough to keep that will-power when she’s telling you that you’re cute with that double bacon cheeseburger and chocolate malt.
Drinking All Day
Waking up at seven in the morning to a shot of bourbon is no longer an option when in a relationship. You can still drink, but the purpose behind that drinking is different now — it used to be in an overall attempt to get laid, and now it’s just part of socializing, and has a very low cap placed on it. Your drinking days are effectively over, unless you scored a lush, in which case you’re both going to end up in rehab.
Dressing Any Way You Want, and Still Getting Chicks to Flirt With You
Mismatched argyle socks and ironic t-shirts with blazer combinations may get you results now, while you wander in and out of bars freely, but you’re in for a surprise if you think your new girlfriend is going to let you get away with that for long. Sure, she thought it was cute at first, but she’s not about to let you meet her parents dressed like that.
Picking Your Own Music, TV Shows, and Movies
It’s one of those things that most men just don’t think about — until it’s too late. The music we listen to while driving those long trips out of town, the TV shows we watch every week, our favorite movies, they all fall victim. Your girlfriend will quickly gain control of the remote control, and she will always have her favorite song of the moment playing in the car. When the newest movie based on a comic you loved as a kid comes out this summer, you can wave to its poster while you’re dragged into the new Twilight installment by your loving other half.
Comments
Chris
September 29th, 2009 - 3:33:38 PM
yes, yes, yes, yes, yes & yes chix = end-of-life
Natasha
September 29th, 2009 - 6:58:16 PM
Grow the fuck up. I've happily been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two years, and I'm not guilty of anything on this list. I love video and computer games just as much as he does, we often go out to see friends without each other, and I love drinking any time of the day, to name a few things! Also, to the other commenter, if girls = end of life, then be happy being single for the rest of your days. Or gay.
lolwat
September 30th, 2009 - 6:44:51 AM
lmfao @ natasha of course the female will disagree, she's getting everything her way. the guy being miserable with a smile on his face to the girl is a happy relationship. you stupid female.
John
September 30th, 2009 - 6:49:08 AM
Natashais bitching at the author, reinforcing his point. Women LOVE TO bitch at men. We know. That's why we try to score with as many as possible before getting stuck with the one we'll end up divorcing later. It's lessons in life really... And this isn't about the girl's opinion about entering a relationship so shut up.
joe jr
September 30th, 2009 - 6:58:56 AM
get over it. this is the price for regular nookie. pay up or shut up
sweetbearies
September 30th, 2009 - 8:29:16 AM
Very interesting article. Guess it will make some men want to be single lol.
John Davis
September 30th, 2009 - 8:31:38 AM
Wow, random travel is SO kewl. Did that over the summer to Bangkok and had the time of my life! RT www.total-privacy.net.tc
frank
September 30th, 2009 - 8:35:22 AM
@joe jr., it's much cheaper, less of a headache, and you actually get to do the things YOU enjoy if you employ the services of professionals.
John Davis
September 30th, 2009 - 8:39:09 AM
One thing to be observed is that recent studies show that the most successful entrepreneurs are usually married and have an average of 2 kids. Does that mean that if you are single, you'll work for someone all your life? :)
noyes
September 30th, 2009 - 8:39:15 AM
this should be renamed "15 things he-bitches lose to relationships"
bruce
September 30th, 2009 - 8:41:17 AM
y'all need to grow some balls and/or get better women. stop being so lazy and dump your chick. then, find one that doesn't ruin your life. but, if you're on the other side of things and tried way too hard to get a chick. sorry you wasted part of your life for nothing.
Just A Girl
September 30th, 2009 - 8:41:36 AM
I'd tend to disagree with these statements. Yeah, I think it's true that you're going to change your schedule for youy guy/irl, but personally as the girl in my relationship I'm the big gamer(I've spent hours playing oblivion while my boyfriend goes and does something else), I hang out with my buddies, I like staying out late, and I have NO problem with my guy having a social life. Why would I want him to hang out with me all the time? I've got a career in mind and I can't pursue it while hanging out whispering sweet nothings all the time. My feeling is if you've gotten yourself into a relationship with a whiny, prissy type of girl you just haven't found the right girl. I hope you all do, too. It seems like a pretty sorry state of affairs if everyone is in these kinds of relationships.
Sgt_Jake
September 30th, 2009 - 8:42:21 AM
Regular nookie? Yes. It's regular. It's not frequent, and it's not that wild-monkey-sex you used to get from those random girls you picked up at the bar, but it's regular. Like a bowel movement. This list made me cry a little bit inside. You bastards. Spot on. I miss that couch in Denver (for real), Independance Day and Braveheart on the weekends, and midnight game-fests. Off to sneak a drink.
Phaoloo
September 30th, 2009 - 8:42:22 AM
Really like all the thoughts here.
Shaun
September 30th, 2009 - 8:42:48 AM
Some yes and some no to varying degrees. For the sake of comedy it's a classic list. Don't forget that not all people fit into sitcom friendly stereotypes. That said, the drama and the schedule are a given. Welcome to loveland.
Janet
September 30th, 2009 - 8:43:18 AM
I shouldn't worry pet, with your out dated, misogynistic views I doubt you'll be in danger of a proper relationship any time soon.
Jimmy
September 30th, 2009 - 8:43:37 AM
Yeah that random travel stuff doesn't go over anymore. Sure, she says it's okay to take a 5 day jaunt to London on a whim, but I can see the fire ignite in her eyes. 5 minutes later I can see a tantrum brewing...So yup, no more of those!
Ria
September 30th, 2009 - 8:44:10 AM
Lol. Honestly, I think it depends on the person you are with. Obviously things will change but not necessarily for the worse. If you are dating a woman with serious self-confidence issues then it is more likely that you will find yourself being her trophy when with her friends or always broke and fighting. I'm not going to lie, I think high maintenance woman should eat shit. Today's society is about being independent, no matter if you are man or woman. If your relationship ends up like this, then you should either be single or find a woman who is on your level of awesomeness. Things have definitely changed for me in my relationship. My man doesn't like the club scene, but I do. In an effort to compromise I go out to the movies instead or to a local bar with him and friends. He has a love for MMOs so I put some time into that now as well. I like museums and art, so he takes me to those places when he can. Most importantly, we split all costs down the middle like rent and utilities. We even take turns to cook for each other, sometimes cooking means take-out or McDonalds. Lol. My advice: find yourself someone you can work with, not yield to. Or just worry about yourself and thats it.
Dewey
September 30th, 2009 - 8:44:50 AM
The best we can hope for is to maintain our manhood: http://jackgoesforth.blogspot.com/2009/09/things-im-doing-to-maintain-my-manhood.html
Bats
September 30th, 2009 - 8:51:58 AM
Hmmm, guess i hit the jackpot then. Mine is a gamer, loves my cooking/food choices, encourages my alcoholism, likes my friends, mocks the "Twilight" bitches, watches Top Gear, and still fits into that size 0
Miss Cellania
September 30th, 2009 - 8:53:46 AM
Looks like you haven't found the right woman yet. No need to give up what's important to you. I don't mind my husband eating leftover pizza while the rest of us have homemade lasagna. He can stay fit if he wants to. He controls the TV and has his mancave. He can keep his own schedule (he's asleep right now). And he can get lucky any time he wants ...with me!
evo1
September 30th, 2009 - 9:06:40 AM
....been married 6 years and laughed heartily on this one. some points were kind of sophomoric, but most of them were true...especially, the one about your place being decorated with art deco, or in my case, art novueau. luckily, my wife lets me travel whimsically (for surf) and let's me have guys only nightd and drinking binges if i'd like. it comes down to shedding your selfishness while not losing your individuality; and it takes compromise in a healthy relationship.
Jay
September 30th, 2009 - 9:08:52 AM
This list is probably highly accurate if you are picking women for their "size zero panties" and nothing else. Yes, if your idea of a relationship is basically a long term prostitution agreement with a girl who is slightly out of your league (and knows it) you are in for all of this and more. Why don't you find a girl you actually love, who will actually love you back? Sure, you can't avoid the drama, and the getting lucky is probably off the table, but if you are with a woman who actually values you for you, she will compromise on a lot of this stuff. Just stand up for yourself and keep your balls.
SoontoBeDivorcedDude
September 30th, 2009 - 9:10:17 AM
@Bats I'd check REAL close for an adams apple and the hormone therapy bottles. :) I gotta say a lot of things ring true here. Except the size zero panties..
The Girlfriend
September 30th, 2009 - 9:11:28 AM
I have to agree with the girls who posted...my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 8 years and he's never missed anything on this list. He still stays up all night playing games, still goes out to see his buddies without me, still crashes on their couches and goes on trips without me. And I don't think I've ever even suggested he eat tofu. When movies like "Inglorious Basterds" come out I'm just as excited to see them as he is and we hardly ever disagree on music since we're both metal fans. I play Warcraft with him, I don't make him watch "girl" movies, I rarely ask him to dress any differently than he would on his own, and he goes to the gym almost every day. And for the first 7 years of our relationship I paid for almost everything...he's only just now begun to pay when we go out, now that he graduated and has a job with Oracle...which I'm not ruining either. And I may not fit in a size 0, but my ass J-Lo-esque and isn't meant for anything smaller than a 4 anyway (I wear a 6 and eat more pizza than he does, if you really need to know). While I know there are girls out there who have done each and every one of those things to a guy, I have to assert that not all girls are that way. Hang in there boys...there are girls out there who will love you and Halo and beer, and will have sex with you at least once a week. Douchebags who like to pretend the women they so desperately want are actually the devil, however, will sadly be lonely for quite some time, I'm afraid.
Anonymouse
September 30th, 2009 - 9:11:33 AM
I dunno, maybe it's more that you guys ended out with shitty girls. Mine hasn't really done any of these things to me...in fact. -I have more game consoles and computers than before I was with her. Something that she personally has added to. -She has actually MADE me hang out with my guy friends 'you really shouldn't ignore them you know, what if we ever broke up?' -My work focus has always been shit, it's better now because I need to be successful for her. -I've never had my own schedule, ever. -There is always drama and arguments, bring up religion or 'how awesome Obama is/George W. was' around your friends and see what happens. Or shit, make a statement about which game console is superior. -I got a job since being with her, I have more money. Also she makes money too. -She has actually suggested that if I have the opportunity to get lucky that I take advantage of it, and I have. She was more interested to know if there was anything the girl did that she could do to make our sex lives better. -I've traveled more since I met her than ever before in my life, she loves to travel. -She eats what she wants already and has actually exposed me to a number of things that I had never tried before. -I have my decorations, she has hers, they've kinda merged but we both have our own spaces. -I hate sleeping, I can do that when I'm dead. -I never worked out a day in my life before I was with her, SHE is the reason that I'm as fit as I am today. -What kind of a waste of life drinks all day to begin with? Fuck you. -Good fucking god, you know you can always CHANGE your clothes before you go out. -This, this I somewhat agree with, I never watched a reality show until I was with her but if I'm not watching that I'm watching ESPN or the news anyway so whatever that's fine. Compromise is good. tl;dr Those of you agreeing with a joke article are just admitting what shitty taste you have in women. Enjoy your settling for imperfection and future divorce/depression.
Nestor
September 30th, 2009 - 9:13:04 AM
Preach on brother!
Jak0shadows
September 30th, 2009 - 9:19:51 AM
haha it was funny even though very untrue.
your mother
September 30th, 2009 - 9:22:41 AM
all this rules apply... if you're pussy whipped.. grow some balls and do whatever you like (inside the logical stuff) if she complains, dump her...
sweetbearies
September 30th, 2009 - 9:23:29 AM
Hey I am a woman and I see the attraction of remaining single. There is nothing compelling enough that makes me want to get married, so I can respect men who want to be single and enjoy their life. I may not enjoy the above activities, but I relish having lots of free time myself!
joe
September 30th, 2009 - 9:25:35 AM
so true :(
Daniel
September 30th, 2009 - 9:27:26 AM
LOL! Almost everything is correct... But... My girlfriend loves to play game with me. She organizes all my room, she prepares to me anything that i want to eat and anytime. And the rest... i think is all true, but the price is equal, or better to be with her, so... Nice article :D
Pete
September 30th, 2009 - 9:30:30 AM
I call bullshit. If men have lost any of these things from a relationship, then you should add your balls to the list too.
Sirsowk
September 30th, 2009 - 9:36:00 AM
Another classic debate of "Which comes first - chicken or egg?" The writer is entitled to write whatever he wants and his reason can be anything. In our society today, compromising is not a trend and break up/divorce rate is increasing every year. Why is that? You tell me.
Erich
September 30th, 2009 - 9:36:19 AM
I can only confirm this list. Sure, it might take some time, but after a few years, every single item on this list is gone.
Amy
September 30th, 2009 - 9:39:25 AM
This article is complete bullshit. It relies on tired old stereotypes of both men and women that only exist in Vince Vaughn flicks. Whoever wrote it needs to grow up and come out of their post college hangover. College wasn't like this (who could drink all day and eat pizza for breakfast while ALSO being successful in the workplace and keep in shape?), so stop lusting over the good old days that never even happened in the first place...
Dr.K
September 30th, 2009 - 9:46:32 AM
Anyone who agrees with this is probably under the age of 20 and a virgin.... Or an insufferable douche bag who will live his life in solitude and end it by his own hand.... Just saying.
James
September 30th, 2009 - 9:47:10 AM
to tell you the truth, the only thing on this list that i can recognize with is the phone-calls when out with your friends. any of the others come up it's tough shit. if your that controlling then f**k you.
gitmo
September 30th, 2009 - 9:52:35 AM
This article reminded me of all that I miss. Single life is the way. Best advice ever. Entrepreneurs are usually married with kids because that's what makes them want to put in all the work to be successful. To get the hell out of the house.
One of these types of girlfriends
September 30th, 2009 - 9:57:46 AM
I completely agree with this article my bf has changed exactly to fit my needs, but from what he tells me he's a lot happier this way. He fits my every need and want and I give him comfort, love, and most importantly to a man, good sex. so in our eyes it's a win win situation.
One of these types of girlfriends
September 30th, 2009 - 9:58:22 AM
I completely agree with this article my bf has changed exactly to fit my needs, but from what he tells me he's a lot happier this way. He fits my every need and want and I give him comfort, love, and most importantly to a man, good sex. so in our eyes it's a win win situation. He fits my woman needs and i'll comply with his "manly" needs.
Rob
September 30th, 2009 - 9:59:19 AM
One-of-these-types... That's what I tell my wife too.
jeebus
September 30th, 2009 - 10:01:29 AM
If your a giant puss. this happens toyou.. If you actually have a relationship and not just a thing where you listen to your other all day, then you guys compromise. In all of my relationships, we made compromises. Main point is, if this is happening to you. Your not in a relationship, your in a dictatorship.
derrty
September 30th, 2009 - 10:16:21 AM
oh man. I really have no balls. I have lost it all. my girl is way to controlling and if I don't go along with it I have to suffer. if I don't she has already threaten to take my kid and disappear. I think I need to ease some of these things back into my life. especially the social life.
Steve
September 30th, 2009 - 10:23:12 AM
The 3 magic words: Work With Me. If your with somebody that doesn't work with you, or at least try to compromise, your inevitable end will come soon. If you wade it out, it'll end horribly. And some women here are talking about "tired old stereotypes" that are listed in this article. Lol, take a look into the mirror if your in a relationship RIGHT NOW. Does your man hang out with his friends on a regular basis, or at least a couple times a week? Is he able to have a drink without repercussion, no matter what time of day it is? Do you watch what he wants to watch, or what you want to watch when movie night comes? Do you argue about something that's worth aguing about, or do you yell at him when he forgets to put the seat down? If you moved in with him, how many of his posters/pictures/etc are still on display? (most likely less then 30%). Before you start pointing that critical finger, take a look at how he was before you got together and how he is now. Notice the change? All men will do what they can to keep their women happy. Most women (not all) will do what they can to keep themselves happy and make it seem like the relationship is going well, while their man is dropping to his knees eveytime she utters a word.
Hey
September 30th, 2009 - 10:28:12 AM
Yea I guess this is true if you live in a sitcom. Seriously you'd think the article was written by a 90's standup comic.
Christoph
September 30th, 2009 - 10:30:50 AM
there is a simple mathematical proof showing that girls are evil.... girls = time * money since time = money then girls = money^2 since money = sqrt(evil) then girls = evil !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
davesworkout
September 30th, 2009 - 10:31:23 AM
Interesting article. I guess I got lucky, I have a wife who can rival me in computer geekiness (shes a computer science major at an ivy league school with a 4.0 gpa and generally gets to embarass all the men in her class with her superiority), along with most of my other hobbies and interests. And to be honest, I started wanting to spend my money on sensible things long before i got married! Who the hell wants to eat hot pockets out of a toaster oven their whole life?
Disagreed
September 30th, 2009 - 10:32:56 AM
I completely disagreed with this article. I play as many video games as my boyfriend and we fight about which video games are better. I LOVE pizza and beer, and cheeseburgers, but I'm a dancer so I'm still in shape. When you're in a relationship, you give up a couple things obviously, but you gain so much more. Guys: Don't fucking tell me you get laid tons when you're single. You MIGHT score once a month, or twice if you happen to find some HIV infested girl..My boyfriend gets laid twice a day, everyday, Good luck getting that when you're single. My boyfriend also gets tons of time to hang out with his buddies as I have school, yoga and dance during the weekday evenings. Perhaps you guys should stop being so shallow and going for the size 0 girls because those are the ones that typically hold you down. Going for a REGULAR girl won't barr you from any of your other shit you want to do because she'll have her own life as well.
Lisa
September 30th, 2009 - 10:47:19 AM
Men, if a girl makes you give up friends, give up man time, read cosmo, and get rid of video games RUN AWAY!!! She is not the girl for you! She is not the girl for anyone! Some of the stuff on the list seems more like growing up than giving up. Though I must admit, it's hard to drink all day and play games all day if you don't start early.
Pocha
September 30th, 2009 - 10:47:55 AM
I agree with most of ya'll... grow some balls and find some of these non-tyrannical women! Jesus who does this to ppl they care about? and some of us women enjoy a single life because of the same reasons. But I admit we are rare so good luck
Zac
September 30th, 2009 - 10:56:03 AM
This is the kind of stuff that happens to dudes who dont have the balls to stand up for themselves and date bitches with poor taste. A good woman likes video games, beer, and the funny shit on your walls. Doesnt mind you running with the boys, and digs good music. If you find a chick whos not into your shit, your into the wrong chick.
Just a thought?
September 30th, 2009 - 11:02:33 AM
Most of this list is true for MOST guys and that being said, MOST girls do it to guys. Whether they know it or not. There are girls here getting pissed because they "don't do that" and maybe they don't, but chances are they are that percentage of women that doesn't change their man. Just sayin'.
Mae
September 30th, 2009 - 11:04:41 AM
My husband does not lack any of these "priveleges" since being in a relationship with me. We both pretty much do whatever we want, as long as the other one isn't completely offended by it. All women are not manipulative control freak bitches. Some of us understand what it takes to make their partner truly happy and are willing to sacrifice a lot as well.
joe blow
September 30th, 2009 - 11:35:26 AM
I want a girl who doesnt type lol. my work is done here.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2009 - 11:45:21 AM
Yeah, most of them are only the truth. No time for anything but her.
Aven
September 30th, 2009 - 11:46:01 AM
Yeah, most of them are only the truth. No time for anything but her.
JK
September 30th, 2009 - 11:56:43 AM
I like how the women who are commenting on this article honestly believe this list doesn't apply to them. How cute.
poo
September 30th, 2009 - 12:21:44 PM
this is the most sexist thing i've read today
JustJay
September 30th, 2009 - 12:39:55 PM
Author should have said that these things happen when you get a girlfriend that you didn't take the time to get to know. Most guys, young or old, want the the pretty girl. Arm candy = boosted social status & ego. However, a mature man knows he has to actually figure out a woman's personality before he aligns himself with her. I've read stuff like this all my life, it's the only reason why I'm so picky about girlfriends. If it was all about looks, I'd probably have 4 kids by now. We all got to make sacrifices (you think the ladies don't too?), but if you're a real man, you will keep your life entact but shave off the unnecessary crap so that you and her find a happy medium.
natashas_boyfriend
September 30th, 2009 - 12:46:51 PM
I'm natasha's boyfriend and she's draining the lifeforce from me. Please someone kill me.
Dan
September 30th, 2009 - 1:06:10 PM
You're a fucking noob if you let your girl treat you like this. Grow some balls and put her in her place, or find someone else. A real relationship has balance. You give each other space. But that means you have to also trust each other. If there's no trust, there's no point. And if she's a jealous bitch, what the fuck are you still doing with her? I love my girlfriend, but there's no way I'm letting her control my life. It's been working out pretty well for the past 3 years.
dude
September 30th, 2009 - 1:18:15 PM
you said you won't get to eat what you want and you'll eat all sorts of shit.. then in the physical fitness part you said that you'll be eating cheeseburgers with milkshakes. bitches can't stop you from living your life, just gotta teach her or find a new woman
GH
September 30th, 2009 - 1:57:48 PM
I have to admit....my fiance may put up a fuss, but I usually get what I want most of the time.
imunidentified
September 30th, 2009 - 2:34:16 PM
Most of that list seems bad, but I think some of it can be positive too. That double standard about hanging out with friends is just not cool. This list sounds like its for drunken college guys though.
DUDE
September 30th, 2009 - 2:34:48 PM
Im juggling the two right now, what a properly timed article.
Eqlity
September 30th, 2009 - 3:07:49 PM
Well, I guess what I lost when starting a relationship was less than what I got... If it wasn't, why would I be in it? Sometimes, doing the same "single guy" stuff ends up beeing boring and repetitive. But in fact, you miss what you don't have NOW. You don't really remember that before, you missed having someone by your side. A I'm happier in a relationship... Both persons SHOULD compromise!
BPF
September 30th, 2009 - 3:15:08 PM
Oh grow up, yeah these things are true to an extent, but it is possible to have some of those things. The most important part of any relationship is having your own space, if you don't have that you are screwed. Sex on a regular basis is pretty cool too.
Dee Ann
September 30th, 2009 - 3:23:58 PM
All true. My man needs to grow up and be a man. No drinking. No checking out other women. No living like a slob. No guns. No stupid ass Xbox bullshit. No action movies. If he wants to watch those stupid ass guy movies he can do it in the basement. Xbox too or whatever that damn stupid toy thing on the TV is. Pay attention when I speak. Oh, and no porno. That's totally out. Not happening in my house baby. If I'm not good enough for you then hit the road Jack.
Trish
September 30th, 2009 - 3:39:12 PM
I have to laugh. As I read, those are the same things I'm forced to give up when I date a guy. Including my porn. So, quit botching. It works both ways.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2009 - 3:46:32 PM
This is misogynist horseshit.
ronak patel
September 30th, 2009 - 3:51:11 PM
hmm...sounds about right and more
Elle Zee
September 30th, 2009 - 3:59:17 PM
Marriage: 1. I got him hooked on WoW. 2. He goes out when he wants, wherever he wants. 3. He apologizes for how much he works, often stating he feels like he's neglecting me. 4. He can change his schedule whenever he likes, ah, freelance. 5. If you're arguing, why are you together? 6. I spend my own money and he complains. 7. If the physical relationship wasn't good, why did he say yes when I asked him to marry me? It was a very excited yes. 8. Tickets are cheap in Feb? Lets go. 9. I can only bring home so many sweets at a time and size 0 panties mean there isn't much to hold on to. Been there, done that. 10. Everything he's wanted to decorate with is very visibly available in our home. 11. To quote "Sleep is a waste of time." 12. This was never a priority. 13. I can count the number of times he's wanted to drink on one hand. I bought. 14. I liked him in the clothing I met him in, he still owns all of them. 15. I've never made him watch anything with me. I know I'm likely the only person left who enjoys Cherry 2000. All I'm trying to say is if you are having any of the above problems, you are with the wrong person. It's not difficult to keep your life the way it was before being with someone permanently.
lol
September 30th, 2009 - 4:09:32 PM
Really? You thought it'd be a good idea to use a picture of Chris Brown and Rihanna when the issue at hand is men losing peace of mind because of their girlfriends? You're so edgy, Manolith.
Camila
September 30th, 2009 - 4:10:36 PM
This is completely ridiculous. Many of these things could be easily applicable to a girl getting into a relationship as well. Plus, many of these sound like symptoms of a bad relationship.
Aaron
September 30th, 2009 - 4:22:18 PM
I am a man with a girlfriend and I disagree with all of them except the money one. But honestly, I'd be spending all the money I spend with her/for her on other things anyways. I even consider it of better value because I'm spending it with the person I love. I agree with anonymouse and Elle Zee. hahaha at drinking any time you want or eating anything you want.....my GF eats to her hearts desire and drinks to it as well. She is the epitome of the person who lives by "I do what I want!" Oh, and two years since we first met and not one serious fight yet....only cute bickering that makes us laugh.
smoothoperator
September 30th, 2009 - 4:38:50 PM
Simple. Stay single and enjoy life. One nighters don't have these restrictions. Party while you can. When you are old as dirt you can settle down and do the no fun game.
guy
September 30th, 2009 - 4:53:19 PM
If you lose all these, you're a push over. I've been with my gf for 3 yrs now, and still have most of these. You just gotta know how to explain why these things make you who you are, and if she can't accept that, then why is she with you? get ta steppin biatch... nuff said
anna
September 30th, 2009 - 5:04:11 PM
There's only some girls like that I can name a few myself that I know. This is an article about the signs of a girlfriend who is controlling and smothering. I like my boyfriend to have most freedoms. Whoever wrote the list obviously has had many bad relationships but I mean they're the one whose choosing the nutcases so it's their own fault.
landi
September 30th, 2009 - 5:08:42 PM
o boy what can of worms we opened here
macross
September 30th, 2009 - 5:21:24 PM
Perfect how the women commenting are proving the point. And right on the defensive. I guess the tone of the article implies it's all the women's fault this happens. When in fact it's just a reality of having a relationship. To the ladies that bitched about this article. Get over yourselves and re-evaluate how you are managing your relationships. Also...swallow.
adam
September 30th, 2009 - 5:25:20 PM
From the sounds of it, whatever couple they're talking about has no understandings of each others interest and probably needs to rethink the whole marriage thing.
Cutter
September 30th, 2009 - 5:26:13 PM
To start with, I'd say eating what ever you want, loosing interest in physical fitness and drinking all day are YOUR lifestyle choices. Don't blame a chick. Please feel free. The quicker you keal over from heart or liver or worse disease, the quicker the gene pool is cleaned up for the rest of us.
J-ho
September 30th, 2009 - 5:39:56 PM
Just some of the many reasons why I'm happy I was born gay :)
Cosmos
September 30th, 2009 - 5:43:02 PM
Y'all whipped if you agree with this article. Grab control of the relationship, you suckers.
Dude
September 30th, 2009 - 5:50:26 PM
dude, if you let a girlfriend do this to you, you're the bitch, try dating a cool girl for once
anon
September 30th, 2009 - 5:54:27 PM
Well i've been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now she's done school and had to move home to finish a co-op job for the last bit of her school and works a regular job on top of that. we see each other once every week or two. I get no phone calls no text messages, she sends me cards in the mail and i never get nagging and full trust is there. out with the guys whenever.. do whatever i wish (with respect.. wont go around cheating on her etc.).. why dont many guys have gf's like that? What's wrong with most women out there?
jimbob
September 30th, 2009 - 6:02:31 PM
if you need to grow some balls in relationships check out www.doclove.com best dating coach ever. teaches u to grow some balls and say no once in a while to women.
jon
September 30th, 2009 - 6:04:52 PM
1) To the women above who posted in the comments claiming how "sexist" or "misogynistic" this article was, get a sense of humor. Granted you may not put your significant other through some of these things, but they happen to others and men DO relate to this. 2) To the men who say "get some balls", "stop being a pussy", or "grab control", seriously? Quit thinking you've mastered women and grow up. I'm sure some of you are into adulthood, start acting your age.
Eugenia
September 30th, 2009 - 6:11:22 PM
What a whole load of sensational bull. Except the "Random Travel on a Whim", my husband of 8 years isn't deprived by any of these points! And even for traveling he is has the go ahead if he really wants to! If any of you are on relationships/marriages and you feel that deprived of your needs, then you are in the wrong relationship, with the wrong person.
Kzark
September 30th, 2009 - 6:28:14 PM
Ya... when you get into a committed relationship, you'll probably have to deal with one, MAYBE two of these, but if you're picking girls that think completely remodelling your personality and life is par for the course and you're LETTING THEM well... You're doing it wrong!
Cheap
September 30th, 2009 - 6:52:05 PM
If you date the right girl then you dont lose most of these. Getting lucky you lose but the rest I dont know about
Dd
September 30th, 2009 - 7:02:08 PM
Should be re-titled to "15 things you lose to relationships. All this shit happens to women in relationships too. They have less free time, more likely drama will happen with the partner, can't get lucky, can't off an travel on their own. Relationships are about trade offs. But what you lose is far less than what you gain.
steve feingold
September 30th, 2009 - 7:11:45 PM
wow.... that is every reason why I broke up with my last girlfriend. And every reason why I LOVE being single.
Gori
September 30th, 2009 - 7:43:37 PM
All true, if you're stupid enough to be dating a fictional character from Sex & the City or a hideous stereotype.
Stereotomy
September 30th, 2009 - 7:59:35 PM
If you tools hate women so much, just buy a fucking Fleshlight and leave us alone.
Darkness
September 30th, 2009 - 8:07:33 PM
I feel bad for any sucker who loses this much freedom just by being in a relationship. If you're giving up things you enjoy/love because of a needy woman, and you don't do anything about it, you fail at life.
Mr. Big
September 30th, 2009 - 8:15:56 PM
Hear these comments from these biitches on here, that should be included in the list because women are really really good at biitching at you until you are cat whipped.
Eric
September 30th, 2009 - 8:40:21 PM
We area generation obsessed with our "Romantic circumstances" and its fucking ridiculous. As a man, I mean a MAN not a male. Man has more to do with what one does as opposed to your genitalia, ask what defines you. My relationship status is not on that list so any woman who does not completely support my life purpose and goals can piss off.
Daf
September 30th, 2009 - 8:46:18 PM
Maybe we should just kill all women, that'll show em'!
Rob
September 30th, 2009 - 8:55:44 PM
only terrible girlfriends are like this. stop finding shitty girls. my wife does no more of this to me than I do to her with video games and collecting beer bottles and other crap. morons.
taylor
September 30th, 2009 - 9:09:21 PM
every girl here is the exception to the rule hahahaha
noah
September 30th, 2009 - 9:36:19 PM
Evolutionarily speaking men are wild animals.. we hunt (invent stuff) in the day, firegaze in the evening, keep our harem happy at night. Domesticating us will only result in unpredictable negative consequences. Today (especially after feminism happened) men lost his identity. He's no longer at-one with nature, because he invented stuff to rule over nature so, he stopped worshiping nature and started worshiping his inventions because without his inventions he's nothing, he's so lonly, he does what everybody else in his group does, his perception, his taste has been standardized by today's consumerized society. You think the wild animal is tamed but what you have is a walking-timebomb (although today most people are androgynous so you'll find guys who want to be domesticated). He seeks out relationships because he feels incomplete by himself- because of his estrangement with the nature...etc etc I have a lot to say about this but I'm going to conclude by saying I don't know why would any guy would ever want to be unsingle is beyond me. I'm not a materialist and don't play video games or live like a slob... I was born wild and will remain wild regardless of my relationship status.
Madison
September 30th, 2009 - 9:51:45 PM
If a girl can rope you into giving up everything you love for her, then you deserve a life of oppression. man up and stop falling for any girl who will screw you, and you'll probably get to keep your videogames and dorky clothes.
John
September 30th, 2009 - 9:57:05 PM
Agree with those that say to get a better woman that doesn't ruin your life. I may also say that if you deeply value the things on the list, you need to get a better LIFE. I've been happily married for 5 years almost, with a 1.5 year old girl. Both are the best thing that ever happened to me. Given, I don't get to "hang out with the guys as much", but when I do, all I do is think about my girls. Also, this year I bought a new 46" plasma HDTV, Xbox 360 and my wife got me a Nikon DSLR for my birthday. Yes, she bitches about the Xbox but she was the one that got me my first, original Xbox, so I don't complain (much). Everything else on the list is overrated, or you need to grow the fuck up. Also, women that try to make girls out of their "men" by criticizing every "guy" thing they do also need to grow up and realize that we are MEN. Want someone that doesn't like videogames, beer and action movies? Get a girlfriend.
Dee Ann
September 30th, 2009 - 10:02:31 PM
You couldn't PAY me to take any of the sexist pigs that are described in the article or any of the sexist pigs that have commented on the article here. You treat us like shit. Yeah? Well fuck you. Sit in the basement with your xbox and football and your puny little cock in you hand and jack off all alone. Not one of you is good enough to sniff my discarded tampons.
Dan
September 30th, 2009 - 10:08:21 PM
While there are many cool girls that don't fit the stereotype on this list (I happen to be dating one right now), there are many many more that restrict a lot of the things on this list, if not all. So girls, even if you are telling the truth and you don't restrict your man in these ways, it is still something that many many men deal with on a regular basis, ESPECIALLY later in the relationship (marriage). On that note, you can often see it coming early on, and that's how I know it won't happen with this girl, because I know some of the signs (from experience).
noah
September 30th, 2009 - 10:19:31 PM
Evolutionarily speaking men are wild animals.. we hunt (invent stuff) in the day, firegaze in the evening, keep our harem happy at night. Domesticating us will only result in unpredictable negative consequences. Today (especially after feminism happened) man lost his identity. He's no longer at-one with nature, because he invented stuff to rule over nature so, he stopped worshiping nature and started worshiping his inventions because without his inventions he can't rule over nature, he's nothing, he's so lonely, he does what everybody else in his group does, his perception, his taste have been standardized, prescribed and routinized by today's consumerized society (Brave New World anyone?). You think the wild animal is tamed but what you have is a walking-timebomb (although, today most people are androgynous (women are manish, men are womanish) so you'll find guys who want to be domesticated). He seeks out relationships because he feels incomplete by himself - because of his estrangement with nature...etc etc I have a lot to say about this but I'm going to conclude by saying I don't know why would any guy would ever want to be unsingle is beyond me. Today's cosumerized society, two people fall in love when they feel they have found the best object available on the market, considering the limitations of their own exchange values. In a culture where marketing orientation prevails and where material success is the outstanding value, there is little reason to be surprised that human love relationships follow the same pattern of exchange which governs the commodity and the labour market. I'm not a materialist, don't drink or play video games or live like a slob. Being a man DOES NOT mean having any of those items in that article. I was born wild and will remain wild regardless of my relationship status. If routinely taking out the trash and taking Lamaze classes with your wife is your thing, it makes you happy, more power to you. Just be happy. P.S. The ladies got here the wrong impression. There's nothing misogynistic about 'loving women without losing our core identify' (REVISED)
Alex
September 30th, 2009 - 11:15:17 PM
The writer of this article is clearly the bitch in relationships.
Shaun
September 30th, 2009 - 11:23:22 PM
As a guy who was in a great relationship for four years (and now is single again) this list is for loser guys and girls who don't know their ass from a hole in the ground, and live to be co-dependent. If anything guys, if you find things coming true on this list you should take it as a sign that you are a fucking moron who should trade your catty dependent girlfriend in for a peach cobbler. Go grow a set of balls and try again.
Lazlo
September 30th, 2009 - 11:52:16 PM
Simple advice: Date nerds. Don't be a fucking bro. Sitcoms aren't relationship guides. Neither is any movie with goddamn Will Farrell or Adam Sandler in it. Date your best friends. Ignore any fucking idiot who tells you not to. Cultivate some damn maturity and depth of personality. Seriously. I'm married and I'm pretty fucking happy, because I married a freakgirl who doesn't care about any of this crap. She belches in public, plays XBox obsessively, and has the sexual morality of a crazed weasel. She's also deeper than a fucking puddle, and I think that's what makes the difference. Listen, shallow people get exactly the crap they deserve out of their relationships. Stop behaving like fucking Friends characters and the battle of the sexes magically goes away. Seriously.
James Applebee
October 1st, 2009 - 12:11:53 AM
No this is pretty much a bunch of inaccuracies. It's like he looked up the top 15 stereotypes about relationships and slapped them on a website. Fail.
john
October 1st, 2009 - 12:17:06 AM
lol, if you really lose all that when you go into a relationship, you need to get some balls or dump that girl and find a proper one.
John
October 1st, 2009 - 12:17:31 AM
As I contemplate my inevitable divorce, I think... porn is so much better. Stay with porn, guys. Fuck any feelings of insecurity. If you use it to get off in a healthy way, and turn around and get shit done, there's nothing wrong with it. You can sacrifice your entire life for a woman. It won't mean shit to her. They are selfish creatures. They don't really give a fuck about you. They tell you what they think you need to hear, and will use your loyalty and submission at any chance they can. They will use you up until you'll wish you had never been born. I don't give a shit how sweet she looks. Innocence is DEAD.
noah
October 1st, 2009 - 12:40:25 AM
I love girls, I absolutely adore them. I celebrate them. I take delight in them. However, I don't want to be in a relationship with them, ever.
Ross
October 1st, 2009 - 1:03:00 AM
Jesus H Christ... when did men lose their testicles! if your relationship is as described above, then you're a pussy-whipped piece of crap who deserves everything you get. A real relationship is about compromise: you lose a few nights in the week to her, but she has to give up the stuffed bunnies in the bedroom, you back off on the videogames but she has to cut down to one TV soap. What happened to the men of the world!
dan
October 1st, 2009 - 2:05:41 AM
this is really sad because clearly this is a joke with some truth behind it and for all the women basically stereotyping themselves by bitching about this your stupid
trevor
October 1st, 2009 - 2:10:32 AM
I don't understand it at all, I am a guy happily married for over 13 years now I love women and have interests in other women at times none that I act on but I do all men do just like women but I must agree to some of this there are times when a relationship is over bearing and has it's challenges should i say but in the end to be happy and have someone love you unconditionally there is no greater feeling in the world. http://www.rainbowofluv.com
kimo
October 1st, 2009 - 2:44:27 AM
:) "Your drinking days are effectively over ..." , man all you said is true wawoo
Nat
October 1st, 2009 - 3:15:58 AM
Lol, when I was single I used to ride my bicycle everywhere. Now my boyfriend doesn't allow me to do that as he thinks it's 'too dangerous'... And some people seem to have real bitches as girlfriends - your choice guys, your choice...
Living Lovely, Single or Not
October 1st, 2009 - 3:21:00 AM
For sure this list is sexist and we can debate over all these aspects....except for the "DRAMA" part :)
Mobius
October 1st, 2009 - 4:30:32 AM
Well I do agree on MOST of them lol Particularly the games and music take over :D
zeureeka
October 1st, 2009 - 5:24:23 AM
Maybe you guys wouldn't think we "bitch" at you so much if you weren't such immature asshats.
cartoonguy_99
October 1st, 2009 - 6:00:08 AM
I long for the 19th century where bitches knew their place. And if they didn't, a quick backhand would set them straight. Born too late I guess.
Desiree
October 1st, 2009 - 8:02:48 AM
Wow, this article is completely untrue. Pretty much the only TRUE thing would be "drinking all day" because, well, it's stupid and bad for you. Then again, if you want to destroy your health and enjoy a beer gut, who am I to judge? Otherwise, there's only 3 things that involve COMPROMISE (the KEY to relationships) and the rest are just ridiculous. Granted this article is, I should hope, satire. Still, putting out sexist bias-based articles like this is the reason (1) men have trouble HAVING relationships, (2) the reason women have trouble maintaining relationships. It's all bullshit and the perpetuation of it is so... well, 1950's. I am happily married and my husband is able to do most of those things - not including, of course, sleeping around. The rest? His choice and often is something we do together - because if you like/love the girl you're with you'll want to share experiences with her.
LippyLou
October 1st, 2009 - 2:36:57 PM
Y'all should listen to Jay for s/he speaks da truth, man. Wish I'd said it first This>>>>>>>> "Yes, if your idea of a relationship is basically a long term prostitution agreement with a girl who is slightly out of your league (and knows it) you are in for all of this and more. Why don’t you find a girl you actually love, who will actually love you back?"
Optional guy
October 1st, 2009 - 4:01:52 PM
ouch, looks like this was a cookie cutter kind of forum for the cookie cutter kinds of guys/sheep etc. I was lucky to meet the right girl after knowing what i want in a relationship. took some time of course, but it was worth the wait. if your the kinda guy thats just out there for Pu**y, and loves to brag about it to your buddy's who are stuck in terrible relationships with children, then they must have been only out there for Pu**y as well. Know what you want in a relationship. meeting the right woman makes a world a difference. my wife is a big gamer like me, we hike, swim, surf, spar, and go out very often, and often its with our friends. yes, and she does know how to shoot with two guns at once : ) IDK if manolith needs to get out more or add a lil note to the readers " notice- this article only applies to 14-21 age
Optional guy
October 1st, 2009 - 4:03:22 PM
ouch, looks like this was a cookie cutter kind of forum for the cookie cutter kinds of guys/sheep etc. I was lucky to meet the right girl after knowing what i want in a relationship. took some time of course, but it was worth the wait. if your the kinda guy thats just out there for Pu**y, and loves to brag about it to your buddy's who are stuck in terrible relationships with children, then they must have been only out there for Pu**y as well. Know what you want in a relationship. meeting the right woman makes a world a difference. my wife is a big gamer like me, we hike, swim, surf, spar, and go out very often, and often its with our friends. yes, and she does know how to shoot with two guns at once : ) IDK if manolith needs to get out more or add a lil note to the readers " notice- this article only applies to 14-21 age. b/c, having a relationship can lead to having children, if that is the case, then there will be much more to sacrifice than fun. its called becoming an adult, and having daily Pu**y, is just apart of the bargin.
kiki
October 1st, 2009 - 4:48:51 PM
Look, I don't know what kind of sex-hating shrews you find yourself dating, but this is total bs. Seriously, this list sounds like a sour grapes bible for dudes who can't get a girl.
David
October 2nd, 2009 - 3:26:23 AM
Natasha (below), you protest a little too much.
Mike
October 2nd, 2009 - 4:16:33 AM
I love the typical shaming language from the women. They cant handle the truth and cant debate the issues. the bottom line is most AW have become despicable abusive human beings who do nothing but abort babies and take advantage of their man in every way possible. sorry ladies, i will NEVER marry an american women. you aint getting my DNA or money. the problem with you bitches is that most of you remain in a little girl mentality your whole life. you're like little 13 year old, whiny, complaining bitches your whole lives and when you feel bored and want to divorce your husband, the legal society in this country is behind you 100% to get you money and material items from the marriage that you didnt fucking earn and are not entitled to. I am not fooled by the modern AW. I will find me a nice foreign women that actually appreciates me and wont make me a slave my whole life
Jack
October 2nd, 2009 - 5:09:22 AM
If you have to give up this much freedom, it's a sure sign that the price of pussy is too high. Plus, being involved in a relationship is no guarantee you'll get regular sex. In most marriages, the sex dries up after about eighteen months to two years. That's usually the length of time it takes a woman to feel reasonably confident that she has the man locked into the relationship and unable to escape lest he lose everything in divorce court or find himself an indentured slave thanks to the alimony/child-support racket that benefits only lawyers and politicians and keeps cops employed. Secure in the knowledge that they now have a permanent source of income they don't have to work for, most married women have many incentives to cut off the sex. Guys, don't put your balls in any woman's purse. Stay free. The legal system and marriage as an institution favour women so heavily that a man now realizes ZERO benefits and incurs huge legal, financial and physical risks from marriage (or long-term relationships that courts are increasingly seeing as equivalent to marriage, whether or not the parties live together).
mike
October 2nd, 2009 - 5:25:35 AM
i have a question for you wymyn: If equal rights have been the "main component" of the womens movement in the last 50 years then please explain to me why men have ZERO reproductive rights and very little, if any, custody rights???? And then you wonder why articles like this pop up to show the absurdity that women have become.
keith
October 2nd, 2009 - 7:57:25 AM
I'm reading the comments and every other chick's getting offended like this is what they DON'T do. Which is BS. I was recently single after this lonnngg ass relationship. I'm 23, single and actually having the time of my life finally. Life is SOOOO much better without a damn waltch (girlfriend). My best friend also just became recently single maybe a couple weeks ago, he's still in shock but he's also slowly starting to realize how much better it is to be single as a man while you're still young. Best of all, I get no more dirty looks and bad attitudes when I wanna smoke pot and play video games.
Juro
October 2nd, 2009 - 8:03:02 AM
For me, it was working for years with women in the office that made me leary of relationships. You should hear how they talk about their families and especially their husbands (say good-bye to your privacy). Money is the only thing women care about, and everything else is simply a lie. Women certainly don't like men (except we are easily manipulated tools), in the same way we like them. Yes, there are exceptions but in general it's true. Stop thinking you're smarter or luckier than the rest, because you're NOT.
I
October 2nd, 2009 - 9:22:09 AM
You only lose something if you let yourself lose it.Set your boundaries and make that clear to your significant other and if they mind it,leave them.The things mentioned here happen when you commit to a guy/girl you barely know and who is a total control freak. Don`t enter a relationship if you`re not ready and get to know the person before you do so.
CJ
October 2nd, 2009 - 10:21:52 AM
Holy female-hating, Batman. Something makes me think the author(s) of this blog has never been in a serious relationship. Also, I must admit, I have seen a woman do one of two of these things to a man, -- and he was a better man for it -- but NEVER all of them. The reason a woman wouldn't do all of this to a man is because, in order to be in a committed relationship the man had to grow up enough to make some of these choices for himself. Guy, grow the FUCK up.
CJ
October 2nd, 2009 - 10:22:36 AM
Holy female-hating, Batman. Something makes me think the author(s) of this blog has never been in a serious relationship. Also, I must admit, I have seen a woman do one of two of these things to a man, -- and he was a better man for it -- but NEVER all of them. The reason a woman wouldn't do all of this to a man is because, in order to be in a committed relationship the man had to grow up enough to make some of these choices for himself. Guy, grow the hell up.
Pat
October 2nd, 2009 - 1:56:31 PM
Whoa, whoa now!!! Someone said something about nookie on a regular basis??? Since when was that ever a gimmie after the first year.I'm tired, there's no romance, it's that time of the month. You'll be shaking hands with Mr. Happy more than ever.
dino
October 2nd, 2009 - 2:04:41 PM
all chicks get the gaaaasssssss face!!! remember guys don't take any shit from any dumb broads!!!!
monza
October 2nd, 2009 - 8:29:56 PM
how about the girls side: since i have been with my bf ... (who has no job or future) I have had to give up my money Cant go out cause i feel bad cause he cant cause he is broke he is needy and wants to spend the whole weekend here playing MY WII (thats right i have one he doesnt - cause he lives with his mama) and i cant do anything that i wanna do like hang out with my gfs!!! and go out and party cause he never wants to go out!!! my work has suffered cause im always stressing about him (his lack of ability to find a job and my lack of trust for him cause he cheated on me last year and still has feelings for his ex gf) i actually love eating pizza and chochlate, but he gets angry when i do cause he is the health freak ... but i am a size 0 naturally and i can eat what the hell i want i love to sleep ... he always wakes up early and annoys me - so frustrating!! i just went away for a girls trip on the weekend, so i think girls wanna do that more than guys? the only reason why a girl would be worried when their bf goes out til late on the booze with his boys is if he has cheated on her or jeapordised her trust in some way ... if he is a good guy with d*ck control and is loyal and never makes her feel insecure then she would let him go out and do whatever he wants! Chic*s before di*ks i say ; )
Poor Shackled Bastard
October 3rd, 2009 - 6:56:21 AM
Women are like the marine corps. They take a man, strip him down to nothing and then rebuild him in the image she wants. Men are genetically engineered to poke stuff, break stuff, bang stuff and live life in a kind of random chaos that's...well...fun. Women are genetically engineered to find a man, break him down and control him. The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. True that.
Desiree
October 3rd, 2009 - 10:28:12 AM
@Poor Shackled Bastard So either you're single, and will continue to be so with that mentality. Or you're with someone who tried to do just what you described - which isn't what should happen. Women who do that are WRONG or are with the wrong person. There's such a thing as compromise and thus each person has to make changes to accomodate and live harmoniously with eachother but it should never be one person doing ALL the changing.
Cara
October 3rd, 2009 - 5:06:39 PM
I can see this article being true for the average shallow minded girl and guy but they need to get real. Settling into a new life shouldnt mean giving up the things you love. If a girl wants you to change your video game habit or start pointless fights with you, shes most likely not the one for you. This does not apply for all girls as well, I love video games and eat whatever I want whenever I want. I also probably can tell you more about guns and cars than your average guy off the street. Yeah, I disagree with some of the things said and some I totally agree with. Women are not perfect little angels, but men aren't either. Both sexes have flaws and they don't apply to every individial. Girls: Stop bitching. Some are true. Guys: Get off your high horse. If you wanna act so superior about something, don't hide behind something someone else wrote. Point of my comment is that its annoying to see the comment thing filled with bitching from both sexes. Its a biased article and people have their own opinions. Deal with it.
Jim Jones
October 5th, 2009 - 6:30:19 PM
There's no reason you should be giving up any of these things. In a real relationship respect is reciprocal. Stand up for what you want and if he/she objects, they're not a good fit, and move on. Jim http://www.TextMatch.me -- Love on the go.
Kiet Le
October 6th, 2009 - 7:59:35 AM
OMG! everything stated was in this book I read. BOB WAS RIGHT! Apparently Im starting to see what Bob was saying. http://www.relationshipheadquarters.net/order/wmapre.html?hop=kl626853
Zombiebish
October 10th, 2009 - 8:03:07 AM
This is all true. And its all frightening. Except none of it applies to me, because I am awesome. No but really, my boyfriend can't keep work Focus, Keep his own schedule or do random travel on a whim because he is too busy staring at my amazing tits. And thats ok with me, because it empowers me as a woman.
jwo
October 11th, 2009 - 11:03:18 AM
Sometimes you don't get the luxury of finding out certain things until you are married. Then you discover just how selfish you are and how selfish your wife is. And even if you make the transition away from self-centeredness, it doesn't mean that your relationship will survive intact. Oh, and if someone tells you they are out of your league, don't worry about it, they are a manipulator and/or control freak. The best thing you can do for yourself is to develop self-control. Then you can lead instead of being led.
Sasha
October 13th, 2009 - 9:10:54 AM
As a girl, I will admit, we DO do some of the things on the list, but really it depends on the guy. Some guys you can't trust as far as you can throw them uphill in a hurricane. So guys night out? That's out...unless it's at home. In which case they can drink and play cards or video games, or whatever it is, and I'll be in the other room, playing my video games. The way I see it, if he doesn't want to be in a relationship, he doesn't have to be. But since he does, and he is, there are compromises. Same goes for me. I don't have girls night out anymore. The single life is different from being in a relationship. And men know that when they get into it. Everything else on that list though.... I personally don't do. I love tofu, and I've asked him to try it, but he didn't like it and that's cool. I'll stick to making him his steaks and pizza. :)
wavecycle
October 14th, 2009 - 1:12:05 AM
Its a man's lot in life: single or married. Lonely or bored. - Chris Rock
Just Say No
October 15th, 2009 - 2:33:59 PM
I love how all the females are posting here like they're exceptions to the rule. Most American women make for terrible girlfriends. Overly narcissistic, masculine, and sexually promiscuous are the lot of them. Brothers, don't commit to these hags. At best, give them the ol' heave-ho after sex.
Ryou
October 17th, 2009 - 1:07:59 AM
So I'm not the only girl to post. Oh well, so much for individuality... Screw your views! I mean /ALL/ of your comments, the post etc etc. The only thing I love about the page is the living room with the guns displayed.
Z
October 17th, 2009 - 6:08:03 AM
@ some male comments on here, typical wannabe alpha males using this generic, cliched scapegoat for their own inadequacies. I mean sure there are women who want to argue that they are the exception and the sun shines out of their butts which is amusing but at same time there are men on here who think women are suffocating them because 'they' assume/want to believe' they're babe magnets; equally as amusing. Some of these points I can agree on, women 'also' have certain quirky/annoying behavioural patterns but the above article, stating the obvious here, isn't a governing formula. As for "You've let go of yourselves" if this is the case it's not because of her it's because you're probably a fat/ugly lazy piece of sh!t to begin with. Why? a) you want to eat/sleep whatever and whenever you want b) because you want to drink and play WoW all day. If gaming consoles are an integral part of your life as opposed to rooting a female (eg. a gf), please move out of your parents basement and latch off your mother's teat. After you've achieved that greatest accomplishment, get your first steady gf. Some men want women to go dutch when going out/pay their own way but still get insecure when women earn more than they do (bit old fashioned there huh?) If you can't get promoted @ work because you lack the skills/experience, try switching your blood flow that's currently circulating to your nether regions in hopes of becoming Hank from Californication/the latest WoW installment and switch back to using your expensive brain and bitching about women on the interwebz. (This surprisingly helps in your attainment of favourable career prospects). That is all! This is obviously not written by a female, there are no females on the interwebz remember!
Jennifer
October 26th, 2009 - 8:47:59 PM
Im impressed with that guys decorating.
Call Center Guy
October 27th, 2009 - 1:21:53 AM
Reading this made me feel so butthurt because it's all so true. :(
Angie
October 30th, 2009 - 8:52:45 AM
LOL seriously thoughI do think all of those comments are for the typical chick. There are some of though that would disagree with this article. I love sports and I will put them on myself. I love video games as I have bought the 360 PS3 and Wii. I love to hang out when work allows as I work at home and I encourage my men to keep their men ties with friends its important to a man psyche to keep his friends. I can care less what this article says, its humourous though because I do know women like this LOL
Neal Shlonson
December 20th, 2009 - 9:13:37 AM
extremely true. chicks are worthless, no sane/straight man would want anything to do with them.