Summer’s over, and its flings with it. Consider fall a time of new beginnings. Where to start? Here are five places to consider–and not a one is a bar.
1. Political Rally
Rallies are a great place to meet people for two reasons: one, you’re most likely to find someone who shares interest in the issues you’re passionate about. Two, the subject of discussion is an easy in. “So how about that healthcare bill?” If there is a connection, lunch or dinner is always a possibility—and with the adrenaline rush that such things tend to inspire, you won’t find it hard to make the leap.
2. Dog Parks
If you don’t have a dog, now’s the time to do your friend a prop and take out his pooch for Sunday strolls. There’s no chick magnet more powerful than a well-groomed (i.e., not smelly), friendly pooch. Man’s best friend is right. You won’t even have to think of something to say: the girls will come to you. Making annoying baby voices, yes. But they will come. Suggest they throw the ball a few times for Fido and join you on a walk back to grab a smoothie or fro-yo or something equally easy to commit to. If they seem unsure, tell them not to break Fido’s heart. They won’t.
3. Marathon training groups
Marathons are the new pilates. Driven women everywhere are getting into it—and what’s hotter than a setting where you’re both actively pushing yourselves to your bodies’ limits? The fact that there’s a clear objective for these training groups (the marathon) is a great opener: is this her first marathon? How long has she been training? The frequency of meetings enables you to become familiar to her. A couple of sessions and you are on your way to meeting early for that killer morning shake she claims is her ticket to a good race.
4. Local lunch haunt
You’re already there, the place gets crowded at lunch hour, why not ask to take a seat at her table? This can be more challenging because there is no clear objective or topic. A simple introduction that includes your place of work and inquires how she’s in the neighborhood should suffice as an opener.
5. Take a class
Whether it’s ikebana, cooking, batik, or language, this is the perfect place to connect with the ladies and expand your horizons. The subject provides a ready topic of discussion, not to mention classes offer the chance to connect afterward, whether because you think her implements are better and have asked her to show you where she acquired hers, or, in the case of a language class, a study session. Remember good pairing: French goes well with champagne, German with Gewürz and Japanese with umeshu.
Go into the world with confidence. The fact that you’re not meeting any of these women at a bar just tripled your chances.